Making it Work!

Every relationship has a cycle.

It all starts with falling in love. You feel the magic in the air. You anticipate the calls, long for physical touch, enjoy each other's company. Life is quite simply a bed of roses.

It certainly wasn't hard to fall in love. You both met, it clicked and suddenly you have this longing to be with this person. In fact, it was a completely spontaneous reaction! No conscious effort required and some would even say, you couldn't control it even if you wanted to!

A few months later, the fire starts to mellow. Doubts are slowly creeping in and you find yourself wanting some ALONE time to sort things out. Phone calls and texts become somewhat of a bother and suddenly you miss hanging out with your buddies/girlfriends. The excuses start coming, petty arguments turn to quarrels and you begin to ask yourself, "Am I with the right person?" Whatever happened to that perfect relationship you once shared together?

This is when relationships start to breakdown and quite literally, self-destruct.

If this scenario sounds vaguely familiar to you, please understand that this is normal. Almost every relationship goes through similar patches of ups and downs. You may even question if this person is indeed the right one for you. You are not alone.

The key to a successful relationship lies in a very simple truth:

It is NEVER about finding that perfect person, it is about learning to love that person you've found!

Understand this. There is no such thing as a perfect person. Everyone has our flaws, weaknesses, habits and quirkiness. If we never learn to work towards loving the person we've found, I am almost certain that this cycle will repeat itself over and over again.

Learning to love someone unconditionally can be difficult but it is no rocket science either! Like with everything else, you need to work on it daily, put in the effort and give it time to grow. Yes, it may take two hands to clap but remember that one always moves more than the other!

There are always things you can do to improve your relationship; so get ready to create that opportunity, spice things up and regain that euphoria of being in love!   

Love is never just a feeling; it is a decision and commitment to Making It Work!

Inspired by: That Wedding Contest and Sherie Saccharine